Tips for Avoiding Affairs

No one knows of any surefire formulas for preventing affairs. Most people are tempted at some time. Marriages can recover from affairs, but avoiding them in the first place is much less painful. To recover from an affair, you must understand what happened, what the affair partner was thinking to allow the affair to occur, and what each of you can now bring to the marriage that will improve it and prevent this from occurring again.

Tips for Preventing and Healing After Affairs


• If you have an affair, see a therapist right away. Many couples survive infidelity.

• Discuss with your partner what he thinks he would do if he or she ever felt like having an affair. Tell him you would like the two of you to talk about it.

• Discuss and set guidelines together about what is appropriate and comfortable with regard to time spent with other people both at work and socially.

• Openly discuss affairs and possible affairs and your comfort with your partner’s behavior with people outside the marriage.

• Nothing you can do absolutely guarantees that your partner won’t have an affair, so don’t worry, make a strong marriage and enjoy the life you have.

Review: Siblings Without Rivalry

Siblings Without Rivalry
By Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish

How to Help  Your Children Live Together So You Can Live Too.
I have loved this book for years and recommend to my clients often. It brilliantly describes how to handle sibling rivalry but also encourages you to examine your own sibling rivalry issues that may affect your interactions with your children. Very illuminating, but easy to read. Like talking to a bright, articulate friend. To order click on book cover or here: Siblings Without Rivalry: How to Help Your Children Live Together So You Can Live Too

Review: The Wealthy Spirit

By Chellie Campbell

This is a fabulous book. Chellie is an amazing story teller with great practical lessons.

I loved learning about sharks, dolphins and tunas. Goodbye tunas! Hello, richest man in Babylon. This book set me free to take action.

I am a clinical psychologist who specializes in high conflict couples and couples with young children. I have always had my own psychological issues about money probably because my dad often joked when I was in my teens that if it weren’t for his four lovely daughters, he would be a millionaire by then. When I confronted infertility in my 20′s, I felt I ashamed like I should be a millionaire already because we didn’t have kids.

As a result I had read a ton of books about money: personal finance, (don’t-buy-lattes-daily books), biographies of successful financiers, books on financial planning, the stock market, teaching kids about money and books on one’s deep psychological issues about money. This book is different.

This book finally cured my money issues. I became happy and stress free about money in my life. I couldn’t believe it. It even made me a better therapist.

Chellie not only gets the solid practical aspects of personal money management, she gets the psychological aspect of truly permanent attitude change about money with affirmations and stories. And her stories stick. Her book’s page-a-day format works great with my clients who don’t like to read or feel just plain too busy.

I read this book 7 years ago and it keeps on giving. My finances have never been better and more importantly my husband who had different big money issues than mine can now talk with me about money without feeling shame.

Recently, I finished Chellie’s Financial Stress Reduction workshop. The time was well spent as I got a lot more insight and handy tools for helping us make better financial decisions and make money stress free in our life. To purchase this book, click on the cover above or click here Wealthy Spirit